Adoption Information & Referrals
A Caring Place can provide you with referrals to several reputable agencies that will discuss the process of making an adoption plan so you can decide if it may be the option for you.
Does adoption cost me anything or is it possible to get financial help?
There is no cost to you for adoption. Many agencies work with prospecitve adoptive parents that may be able to pay for all your pregnancy-related expenses as well. Adoption is not for everyone but it is THE ULTIMATE GIFT a birthmother and birthfather could ever possibly give to a childless couple.
Can I choose a family for my baby?
Yes! Most agencies have many different families you can choose from. These families have been screened and approved. There are additional options such as choosing a friend, relative or someone who has been recommended to you.
How often will I get to see my baby after birth and after adoption?
You may have as much contact with your baby at the hospital as you desire. When planning your child’s adoption, you can choose an open adoption plan that allows ongoing visits with your child, or you can choose semi-open adoption that keeps you informed about your child’s progress through letters and pictures. If you prefer not to have any contact with your child or the adoptive family, confidential plans are also possible.
What is an open adoption?
With an open adoption plan you are able to:
- Meet potential adoptive families before making their selection.
- You and the adoptive family exchange information (names and addresses) at the appropriate time.
- There may be ongoing contact in the form of: attending the birth of the child, attending physician visits together, visiting the home, gathering as extended family members during special occasions, etc.
- There is direct correspondence between you and the family.
- You and the family contact each other directly by telephone.
What's a "semi-open" adoption plan?
In a semi-open plan, you choose a family from written non-identifying material provided by the agency. An agency or third party mediates the contact between you and the adoptive family before and after the birth.
- You will know the adoptive family by their first names only.
- Adoptive parents may be present at the birth and may meet you before the birth.
- All correspondence is sent through the agency or third party.
- Post-placement meetings are arranged and supervised by the mediator.
- Adoptive parents often share the child’s pictures and letters with you, but may also include gifts, videotapes, etc.
How soon after birth can my baby go to the parents I choose?
The timing of your child’s placement depends on three factors:
- What you prefer to be the time of placement
- Legal aspects of adoption, which may vary from state to state
- The cooperation of the birthfather
Many women want their baby placed with the adoptive family directly from the hospital, but you may prefer to place your baby in temporary care while you consider adoption.
How much will my child know about me?
That depends on what type of adoption you choose – open, semi-open, or confidential. Also, your agency will encourage you to provide your complete medical and social history to your child, no matter what type of adoption you choose (in some states this is required).
Does the birthfather have any rights?
Both you and the birthfather have rights. If you disagree about adoption or you no longer have a relationship with him, your agency will work with the birthfather and/or the courts to determine if his rights can be terminated.
Can my child find me if he/she wants to search someday?
Laws in your state determine when your child may have access to information in the adoption file.